How to Treat Kids in the midst of Divorce and Custody- from www.angriesout.com Very Useful Information its great to have ground rules.

The Book of Rights of a Child in a Divorce

To be told that my mother and father still love me and will never divorce me.
To be told that the divorce is not my fault and not to be told about the adult problems that caused it.
To be treated as a human being---not as another piece of property to be fought over, bargained over or threatened.
To have decisions about me based on my best interest, rather than past wrongs, hurt feelings, or parent's needs.
To love both my parents without being forced to choose or feel guilty.
To know both my parents through regular, frequent involvement in my life.
To have the financial support of both my father and mother.
To be spared hearing bad hurtful comments about either of my parents which have no useful purpose.
Not to be asked to tell a lie or act as a spy or messenger.
To be allowed to care about others without having to choose or feel guilty.

This old tree has been the playground of alot of children! Third generation in our family are now climbing it!

Sharing a pic from the big day.

So....what's new with us?

Let me see here....

-Dalton made a huge and complicated social studies project all by himself, didn't even tell us he was working on it...I thought it really looked good!

-Ellie got all A's on her mid-term report.

-Joey enjoys his bi-monthly trips to the cities to see his dad. He also is getting better and better at his drawing skills.

-Henry's speech has progressed noticably, much improvement, he is currently working on correct pronounciation of the "r" sound.

-Dalton is going on the youth deer hunt with Grandma this weekend. Good luck!!

-Baby is growing! Kicking and wiggling alot.

-Papa has been on different meds for chronic migraine headaches and they are so much better than on the previous medications. He is able to do more.

-Mama just applied for a job closer to home but no call for interview yet. Keeping hopes up.....

-We are enjoying the blessings of fall season. Cooler weather, final harvests from field and garden, last nice days before cold winter days set in.

-Mama canned a pantry full of tomatoes and apples and a few other things.

And that's the scoop on us.

My Awsome Kids

You know what? When i was a new mom, I remember being full of all these warm, fuzzy feelings, couldn't IMAGINE ever being angry or frustrated with my child.....LOL! Now I have....(how many children??? seriously???) and can't imagine a full 24 hour day that doesn't involve a frustratingly real and crazy correction of normal childhood behaviors!! Such as enforcing the rule about doing chores, not just whining about doing chores, or maybe the 'just because your brother hit you doesn't make it ok to kick him' rule, oh and of course the 'no you can't have dessert until you eat whats left on your plate' rule......

And another thing! What young couple starting out, no kids yet, could imagine what having kids is really like?? So, would somebody please tell them that NORMAL family life sounds like a war zone some nights? Or at least like a wild riot, ok? And on quieter nights you probably will still find yourself telling your kids strange things you have once heard your own mother say. Probaby those things you hated hearing, LOL!

All in all its wonderful to have kids, such a gift is worth the headaches and heartaches, but man, a nice hot bath without kids yelling at me through the door..... .............isn't gonna happen for awhile. ;)

(If it did, what would I complain about??? love ya.....)

I hate homework.

So....my son is sitting here, stubbornly refusing to look up spelling words in the dictionary. He is mad at me, because he thinks I ought to tell him which ones are right and which are wrong. I told him its not my homework (after checking the ones that were wrong initially) and if he isn't willing to try (he is only guessing and rearranging) I won't be telling him the answers. I provided him with a good dictionnary which he refuses to use.
I told him two things: "The fact you don't want to do it doesn't matter" and "stupid is a choice". Well, does this make me good mom or bad mom? Some nights I wonder.
We are both very frustrated!!!!!!!!

We love each other! We love each other! heheheheheheeee and we love loving each other. Life feels.....good.

I wish it were summer again.