I hate homework.

So....my son is sitting here, stubbornly refusing to look up spelling words in the dictionary. He is mad at me, because he thinks I ought to tell him which ones are right and which are wrong. I told him its not my homework (after checking the ones that were wrong initially) and if he isn't willing to try (he is only guessing and rearranging) I won't be telling him the answers. I provided him with a good dictionnary which he refuses to use.
I told him two things: "The fact you don't want to do it doesn't matter" and "stupid is a choice". Well, does this make me good mom or bad mom? Some nights I wonder.
We are both very frustrated!!!!!!!!